Effective parenting can be thought of in two different ways. How do you see what
"Effective" - or what works - says a lot about your beliefs about parenting and your
relationship with your child. When you think about good parenting skills, her
think about what will be effective at this moment or what will be most beneficial
in the long term?
Effective parenting means doing what is in the best interests of children by taking
long view. To give an example, let's talk about the general handling
situation. Many parents have written me saying that they smack their children
in the face and want to know what to do. My first question is to ask them
how they react. Surprisingly, some parents told me that they slap their
toddler back soon. When I asked why, they replied, "Because I want him
know how that feels! "
This is an example of ineffective parenting. Slap your child in the face after
he had been slapped you may seem effective because it will stop the child from hitting
You, but do not teach the child why he should not hit you in the first place and
certainly did not teach her compassion for others. Reacting to your child's behavior
just make you look and act like an older child.
Effective parenting helps parents stop and take the long view. Why hit a child
You - he's frustrated or angry? What unmet need that drove him
action? Is he just testing the limits or react to your emphasis on her
will? Remember that children react, while the parents have to learn how
respond if they want to raise their children to become mature adults, not
than just children in adult's clothing.
effective parent is what I call "responsive parenting." As parents can see
children's behavior in the context of human development. Although children
may be sweet and loving when they are frustrated or angry, they whip
exit. It is this tendency to react to respond with care and affection
by parents so that from time to time, children will learn how to be as responsive as it
role models.
This is the essence of effective parenting: responding to what is needed. If toddlers
slap a parent, what greater need - the need parents to "teach a lesson," get
or even a child needs to learn to respect and compassion for others? Although
may seem like an easy decision when framed the way I have presented it, parents
need to develop an awareness to recognize a larger selection.
Reference:
[1] Laura Ramirez, http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Laura_Ramirez
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